I'm Neal Conan. And so my whole life, Ive tried to be for Michelle and my girls what my father was not for my mother and me, he told the graduates of Morehouse College in 2013. WATCH LIVE: Merrick Garland testifies before Senate Judiciary Committee, The Left's utopian open border policies are unsustainable, No bail and no brains: Seattle judge releases accused mass shooter. CONAN: Rich Moran, I wonder: Have you got any kind of database that can show whether attitudes have changed over the years? He joined us from the Pew Research Center here in Washington, D.C. We're going to continue with Mary Pols, and we want to hear from single moms today. Im Neal Conan. Binyamin Appelbaum spoke to Professor Autor for The Timess Business Day section (Study of Mens Falling Income Cites Single Parents). I'm sure it has not helped me moved up in the business world. She works for Time magazine, and she joined us from Maine Public Broadcasting Network in Portland. And it - the sort of demonization or marginalization happens not only to the mothers, but to the children, as well. And my child was seven months old when his father died, and I have to say I heard your - one of your guests say that it's not an issue about demonizing, but there is - if it's unconscious or subconscious, there is a level of demonization that does go on, and it happens - I watch the single mothers with children that I know. Founding ideals inspire liberal patriots:Im aspiring to be anti-racist and patriotic. Vicky Waltz. Mr. MORAN: We can say with some degree of confidence that on a number of the other trends that attitudes have grown more tolerant over the years. About 32% for a school-age child. So I feel like what happened for me as a single mother was basically kind of a continuation of that, and that's not to say that my friends treated me badly by any means but just that it is - it is a little awkward. More often than not, when I tell people that Im a single mother by choice, they say Good for you!Politicians who recognize and support these shifts in the shapes of the American family will gain more votes. The land of opportunity where "the son of a single mom can be president of the greatest nation on Earth," as President Obama put it in his State of the Union speech Tuesday. According to 2017 data, there are more than 16 million unmarried parents in America raising over 24million children. She is currently working on a new book about the future of the family in America. The men also exhibit sensitivity and compassion for their absent fathers. ALAN: Well, single fathers run into some of the same things that I've been hearing on the show, that, you know, just the way that you can actually do that by yourself, you know, without a woman around, in your case with a single mom, without a man around and so forth. And you're listening to TALK OF THE NATION from NPR News. And, I don't know, I'm wondering if the gentleman could say something about that aspect and the way that people do view women in our culture and that maybe they don't believe that women are capable of raising children on their own to be productive members of society or counter-culture. It conducts public opinion polling, demographic research, media content analysis and other empirical social science research. 800-989-8255. Get the help you need from a therapist near youa FREE service from Psychology Today. Almost one third (24.3%) of single mother families were food insecure, 12 about one-ninth (11.7%) used food pantries, one third spent more than half their income on housing, which is generally considered the threshold for severe housing cost burden.. How? I'm a single mother because my husband died. In my 22 years of leading therapy groups, Ive discovered that men and teenage boys raised by single mothers are frequently more sensitive to the feelings and needs of others, and more mindful in relationships with women. But I wonder about - has your decision, Mary Pols, has that affected you professionally? Join us to talk about education, child care, mealtime, sports, technology, the work-family balance and much more. And, you know, for me, I'm sort of I'm in the middle of movie screening. This one, there does not seem to be any change, though we don't have data going back too far. At Motherlode, lead writer and editor KJ DellAntonia invites contributors and commenters to explore how our families affect our lives, and how the news affects our familiesand But what if another child wont stop annoying yours?Readmore, In November, this family adopted five young children from foster care. Single fathers who are married but not living with their spouse are classified as having no spouse or partner in the household. We live in an upper-middle-class economic, socioeconomic area. We went to a Campboree this past weekend, and when I registered my son, the man who was registering said: And are you registering his father? And these mothers can't - they're working three, four jobs, have two, three children and can't provide the financial means to put their children in a position of privilege where they don't get in trouble. Reviewed by Ekua Hagan. America. And I'll give a for-instance. You know, I think the system, our laws, our schools, our judges, are prejudiced against single mothers. Pierce Brosnan's father abandoned his family when the Matador actor was a baby. 800 . Rich Morin, senior editor, Pew Research CenterMary Pols, author, Accidentally On Purpose: The True Tale Of A Happy Single Mother. How do people treat you? And it seemed so clear. And not to say that there aren't wonderful, wonderful responsible fathers, but I think just our societal inclination is to say CONAN: Anyway. Ones that come to mind would be Andrew Jackson, Theodore Roosevelt, Herbert Hoover (completely orphaned at around age 9, somewhat raised by an uncle), Franklin Roosevelt, Ronald Reagan, Bill Clinton to some extent, Barack Obama mostly, and probably some of the 19th Century Presidents but I don't know enough about. I don't feel I'm looked down on, but finding other couples, friends at my son's school is hard. Email us, talk@npr.org. This month, for instance, The Harvard Gazette ran an article entitled, Why living in a two-parent home isnt a cure-all for Black students. Written by Harvard sociologist Christina Cross, it spotlights her research showing that poor Black kids with two parents do not do better on a few educational outcomes compared to their peers with single parents. I think that it's telling that the question didn't get asked of men raising children by themselves. The nuclear family in the house across the street is still there, but different kinds of families live on the block, too: unmarried parents, gay parents, people who choose not to have children at all and, of course, single parents. But, for me professionally, you know, I grew up thinking that Pauline Kael was - you know, the movie critic from The New Yorker Ms. POLS: was just a goddess. When Kate Beckinsale was 5years old, her father, Richard Beckinsale, perished of a heart attack. You can join the conversation by going to our website. Mr. MORAN: Interesting. A year later, he was approached by a literary agent, who asked if he would be interested in writing an autobiography about his life. Since most single-parent households are by women, it's - the real issue is single moms. Janny Scott was a reporter for The New York Times from 1994 to 2008. I had to earn respect by proving that I could effectively raise my son on my own. Three months pregnant with their child, she married him in 1961. Adel's with us from Birmingham. That's at npr.org. Thirty-three percent of millennial moms living with their own children are unmarried, according to the Pew Research Center. Black children raised by single parents are three times more likely to be poor,compared to Black children raised by their own married parents. The M.I.T. Our guest is Mary Pols, author of "Accidentally On Purpose," a single mom of her son. 2023 USA TODAY, a division of Gannett Satellite Information Network, LLC. than its high-income peers to help single parents balance jobholding and caregiving. His research (with his co-author, Laurie Maldonado) compared American single-parent families with single-parent families in 16 other high-income countries, and found that American single-parent families are worst And for me, it's like: Wow, here I am latching on to "Toy Story" as an example of a single mother celebrated in culture by doing a good job with her kids. Each of their stories were the very thing that pushed me to complete this film (which I did with my own savings and credit cards). You can also join the conversation on our website. One important message I would like to get out to all the single parents reading this article: It is extremely important that you find nurturing things for you! They have the highest rate of no health care coverage. Just over half (56%) of single fathers are white, as are 45% of single mothers and two-thirds (66%) of married fathers. A growing share of lower-income children are raised by their mother but not their father, and research shows that those children are at a particular Without financial aid, single mother students have little or no means to contribute financially to their educational expenses. In the deepest quarantine days, many of us who rely on child care facilities, babysitters, friends, neighborsand activities grew more anxious because we lost our vital agreements outside of our households. 2. Fatherless men dont know how to be good fathers. Across all income levels, single mothers are the group more likely to lack health insurance but the uninsured rates among single mothers have fallen in recent years thanks to Obamacare. The history of the United States is filled with stories of single mothers raising successful men. I was a single father who brought up a daughter. columns you've missed along with book reviews and family news from the Times and elsewhere, all free. You know, three movies, no dad. But in fact, the story of presidents being raised by single mothers is as old as America itself. Every elite, out-of-touch, sickeningly rich celebrity was once a tiny helpless baby. Single fathers are younger than married fathers, but older than single mothers. Angelina Jolie's parents, Jon Voight and Marcheline Bertrand, separated when the Mr. and Mrs. Smithactress was an infant. I got divorced from my wife, and they gave me, first, temporary customary, as they do in Michigan, and you have to wait six months to go back to see if you get full custody. So I think our society is biased to the point that we've put these women in really difficult positions. I'm not sure that some of the motivation, negative motivations, played a role in, you know, in these judgments. Causation is unclear, but. Click on TALK OF THE NATION. When it became more and more pressing in recent months, I went back and looked at everything I had ever gathered on that subject. I drove across the Flint Hills of Kansas to the former oil boomtowns where her parents grew up during the Depression. In order to work, she was going to need some kind of advanced degree. So I'll answer him. I certainly do feel different, you know, a little bit out of the norm at school when I'm dropping him off or, you know, just among parents at play dates and things like that. Child care subsidy, if eligible, is hard to come by. Who is the most famous person who was raised by a single mother? But as you know, many single moms aren't quite as lucky to be as financially secure as you are. a center-left policy research organization, presents exactly that kind of opportunity. Later in the hour, an update on Libya and our last installment of Oscar-nominated documentaries: "Gasland." No one has ever described her in that way to me. He's now a freshman in college. IN A PERFECT WORLD drops the labels and proves that with the right support, role models and love, any child can succeed. Ms. POLS: Oh, you know, I remember my boss - I was working at a newspaper in California when I was pregnant. So when we say single mothers are bad for society, it's not the single mothers. I spent many weeks in Hawaii, where she became pregnant at seventeen, married at eighteen, divorced and remarried at twenty-two. And the other thing is a lot of the women I work - or the mothers I see, they're not single mothers by choice. Ironically, the work of another scholar just across the Harvard campus from Cross, Raj Chetty, also refutes the idea that Black fathers dont matter. Ms. McWilliams suddenly finds herself unwittingly thrust into the world of single moms. . I want to break that cycle where a father is not at home where a father is not helping to raise that son or daughter. The men in the film speak of the deep love and respect they have for their mothers. It's the TALK OF THE NATION from NPR News. And for the last couple of years, his dad has been out of work. And on most of these issues, in fact all but single motherhood, they're very accepting, very tolerant of changes. CONAN: It's interesting. A few months after receiving the photo, I wrote an article for The New York Times about Dunham. And the foundations of our community are weaker because of it., Ian Rowe is the founder and CEO of Vertex Partnership Academies. He described those qualities as a source of her strength in many ways. The Times is introducing Well Family, a new online report with expanded coverage of parenting, childhood health and relationships to help every family live well.Readmore, I cant promise that our foster son can stay with us, but I can I try to prepare him for the possibility of leaving without adding to his fear. Readmore, By the time children are in middle school, parents should be stepping back. support receipt. The Motherlode blog has a weekly email. That being said, I know that a boy can be raised in a household without a father and there doesnt have to be a negative outcome. She met the camera head-on, dressed in hand-loomed textile dyed the color of indigo, a silver earring half hidden in the cascading curtain of her dark hair. Barack Obama Snr died in 1982, 11 years after he had last seen his son Barack Jnr at Christmas in 1971, when he was 10 years old. Even for those who did receive assistance, the amount was far less than the minimum theyd need to to stave off hardship like hunger, homelessness, and utility cut-offs. But the evidence, when viewed objectively, points strongly to the value of two-parent households., Jason Sattler:What a new dad learned in COVID lockdown about politics, responsibility and 'women's work'. But as a single woman, I was already sort of left out of the family events, you know, the camping trips that people went on in the summer and - or, you know, dinner parties where everybody was a couple. No matter how you cut it ." Kamala Harris has also said that her mother, divorced and single, was her primary role model. Cross article echoed themes from an earlier article, The Myth of the Two-Parent Home, that she published in The New York Times that claimed living apart from a biological parent does not carry the same cost for black youths as for their white peers.. Ms. POLS: You know, I remember when I was pregnant, one of my dear male friends said to me, you know: You are going to be alone in this emotional landscape. Among the 14 states not expanding Medicaid coverage, the median eligibility level for parents is just 44% FPL, with only two (2) states Tennessee, and Wisconsin, covering parents with incomes at or near poverty. Sign up to to receive a monthly digest of the Center's latest research on the attitudes and behaviors of Americans in key realms of daily life, 1615 L St. NW, Suite 800Washington, DC 20036USA Only 11% received cash benefits from TANF. Sean Grover, L.C.S.W., is an author and psychotherapist who leads one of the largest group therapy practices in the United States. This allows for a further differentiation of single fathersthose who have no spouse or partner living with them and those who are cohabiting.6. It doesn't mean you can't grow up to be president. In a comment on the Times article, Timothy Casey, a senior staff lawyer at With billions confined to their homes worldwide, which living arrangements are most common? Moffett was adopted in 1970 and raised by a white couple, Blair and Patricia Moffett . Mary Pols, thanks very much. Some of their husbands are abusers. I remember my boss calling me into his office, and we were talking about it, and, you know, maybe I was four months pregnant or something like that. You have to be financially wise, and mostly, you are forced to reach outside of yourself to find alternative emotional and social supports. ADEL: Because a child without a father, you know, it's such an anomaly that it just doesn't even figure, much less for my son - it's a son - my son's experience in community sports. The focus on men and boys shouldnt distract from a larger problem: single mothers and their daughters may be doing better, but they cant be said to be thriving. Right now, I'm just wondering if, you know, the Downeast Oil Company had deposited $600 more of oil into my furnace today while I've been gone and I'll have to pay it, but things are better. Intentionally or not, the label obscures an extraordinary storyof a girl with a boy's name who grew up in the years before the civil rights movement, the women's movement, the Vietnam War, and the Pill; who married an African at a time when nearly two dozen states still had laws against interracial marriage; who, at age twenty-four, moved to Jakarta with her son in the waning days of an anti-communist bloodbath in which hundreds of thousands of Indonesians are believed to have been slaughtered; who lived more than half of her adult life in a place barely known to most Americans, in an ancient and complex culture, in a country with the largest Muslim population in the world; who spent years working in villages where an unmarried, Western woman was a rarity; who immersed herself in the study of a sacred craft long practiced exclusively by men; who, as a working and mostly single mother, brought up two biracial children; who adored her children and believed her son in particular had the potential to be great; who raised him to be, as he has put it jokingly, a combination of Albert Einstein, Mahatma Gandhi, and Harry Belafonte, then died at fifty-two, never knowing who or what he would become. You know, where do I fit in? But my best guess is that these attitudes are based on personal experiences and just what they see. The racial makeup of single-mother families has not changed very much over time. Equally striking, we also find that Black children from stable two-parent homes do better than white children from single-parent homes when it comes to their risk of poverty or prison, and their odds of graduating from college. Whatever the reason, raising a child on ones own is hard but becoming more socially acceptable, reflected in evolving attitudes and demographics. But they always called me first - always. 3 Miracles Of Children Raised by Single Mothers 1. Families headed by single mothers are among the poorest households, more than a third lived in poverty, and as such, are extremely vulnerable to homelessness. Stephen Colbert. Median adjusted annual household income for cohabiting fathers is about $38,000 (standardized to a three-person household). By loving their children so deeply, they also stop letting their past define them. Dunham taught English, worked in rural development and consulted on microfinance projects. Once again, the quality of the relationships in a childs life determines his or her mental wellbeing. But, you know, people are going to think what they're going to think, and you just kind of have to get back to doing what you're doing, which is working really hard for your child. 2 Today 1 in 4 children under the age of 18 a total of about 13 million are being raised without a father. "She believed that he deserved the kind of opportunities that she had had [like] the opportunity to a great university," Scott says. It was impossible not to be struck forcefully by the similarities, and the dissimilarities, between them. (+1) 202-419-4372 | Media Inquiries. And it made me really sad because my son loved this boy. Scott's biography of Obama's mother, A Singular Woman, traces Dunham's life and the relationship she had with her son, whose rise in the political world came largely after her death in 1995. 10, Single mothers are much more likely to be poor than married couples. They may have been speaking directly to me, but somehow I think they knew that their voices would be heard beyond the lens and the editing room. But he has been an active part in my son's life. It's the TALK OF THE NATION from NPR News. The poverty rate for single-mother families in 2020 was 23.4%, nearly five times more than the rate (4.7%) for married-couple families. We're all living the family dynamic, as parents, as children, as siblings, uncles and aunts. And it took me until the third one to really realize: No, he's not dead, or maybe he's dead, but they're not divorced. Ms. POLS: Yes, I think that's true. The photograph, taken on a Manhattan rooftop in August 1987 and e-mailed to me twenty years later, was a revelation and a puzzle. Parallel patterns obtain for girls. She went back to Indonesia during that period and confided to a friend how distraught and upset she was to be reduced to one sentence. A voter profile compiled by the Voter Participation Center in 2019 found thata majority of voting-eligible women were unmarried in 2018. 11. 1. In 2019, 15 states had wait lists or had frozen their intake for child care assistance, with wait times ranging from 90 days to two years. Almost one-fourth (24%) of single father households are living at or below the poverty level, compared with just 8% of married father households and fully 43% of single mother households. ALAN: I had the opposite. My news was often met with disdain by members of my family and advice from friends that I terminate my pregnancy. Out of more than 10 million low-income working families with children, 39% were headed by single working mothers or about 4.1 million. The educational attainment of single father householders is markedly lower than that of married father householders. "When I was five, my parents split and my mother raised us mostly on her own," she said in her nomination acceptance speech. "And her work in many ways foreshadows his. The prevalence of poverty presents a more striking difference between the two groupswhile 21% of fathers who are living without a spouse or partner are in poverty, this share rises to 30% for fathers who are living with a partner. I got to spend a year there studying film. And while 22% of fathers with no spouse or partner have a bachelors degree or more, the share of cohabiting fathers with this level of education is less than half that (10%). And millennials will make up 21% of the voting-eligible population in 2020. We cant know for certain whether the cohabiting partner is a biological or adoptive parent to children in the household. Rachel Lehmann-Haupt is an author of "In Her Own Sweet Time: Unexpected Adventures in Finding Love, Commitment and Motherhood," and a single mother by choice. Black children raised by single parents are three times more likely to . Scott says she doesn't know of any problems between Obama and his mother, but there were some indications that his mother felt some sadness about the physical distance between them. Im Neal Conan in Washington. Although the Affordable Care Act will give more low-income single mothers access to health insurance, nearly half of these families reside in states that have declined to expand their Medicaid programs. Im aspiring to be anti-racist and patriotic. PAIGE (Caller): Hi, thank you for taking my call. I am still raising my son, but he sees my commitment to several activities that keep me calm and balanced. His elastic-band body bespoke discipline, even asceticism. About 59% fall into the first category; they have no spouse or partner in residence with them. Like Biden and Harris, we all know the courage that grows from loss, whether it's the loss of our spouse through death or divorce, the loss of living with one parent, or the loss of a dream of having a child with someone you love. Households where both a mother and a father are present make up only 23.5 percent of American homes, and more than eight million women are single parents . Of all single-parent families in the U.S., single mothers make up the majority. About 40% of U.S. single parents were employed in low-wage jobs and often had no access to paid leave. Some of their husbands are in prison. Of course, I know others view me differently. It doesnt reveal why some children in the studies are without a father. It just means that the chances - the likelihood that bad things will happen is increased if you grow up in a single-parent household. to raise our children and financially support them at the same time. CONAN: I think that's what the survey was trying to find out. This is the case for just 38% of single mothers and fully 59% of married fathers. I decided: Im just going to own this. off: They have the highest poverty rate. associated with poor health in middle age, financial hardship and depression. No one not Professors Autor With all the endless negative statistics about fatherless households, do you ever feel discouraged about your sons future? Biden and Harris openness about these family influences has also given power to a job that is often stigmatized by Republicans. Single father householders are more likely to be white than single mother householders, but less likely to be white than married father householders. I wonder: Did you get that kind of reaction when you were pregnant, Mary Pols? And boy, there's a lot of emails coming in. He was raised by his mother May Smith until he was 4 years old, at which point his grandparents took over the primary parenting responsibilities. There are still nuclear families in America, but there are also unmarried parents, gay parents, families without children, and single parents. Fully 30% of cohabiting single fathers are younger than 30, compared with only 10% of those who are not living with a spouse or partner. Tell us your story, 800-989(ph) is the phone number. Knowing what you value will help you build the most meaningful life possible. And I just thought: Wow, that's a really huge burden. All the men in the film, including the directors son, adopted loving and supportive men to fill the role of their father. Only 8.5% of children in single mother families received TANF. Stay with us. For more details, see. I'm often told what a good job I have done. KEVIN RUDD: Kevin Rudd's mother Margaret was forced to raise the family as a single parent after his Dad Bert died in a car accident when he was 11 years old. Moammar Gadhafi told Libyan state television today that the protesters - many of them young people -are motivated by hallucinogens supplied by al-Qaida. Roughly two thirds received free or reduced-price meals. It was one in a series of biographical articles on then Senator Obama that the Times published during the presidential campaign. I mean, obviously, it skews in this very interesting way because the sort of person of first responsibility inevitably is the mother in American society. Mr. RICH MORAN (Senior Editor, Pew Research Center): Thank you. So you're going to register? I wouldnt label it with the word positive as in positive aspects of boys growing up without fathers. The culture wars over family structure that raged in the 20th century wars over single parenthood, marriage, and the importance of fathers seemed to have ended in the early 21st century. The big one is is that people know single mothers. We could improve the prospects of those single parents, and their sons and daughters, by finding ways to make it easier for all of us Beaver Cleaver would have trouble recognizing the typical American family today. About Press Copyright Contact us Creators Advertise Developers Press Copyright Contact us Creators Advertise Developers Obama was largely raised in Hawaii for the first six years of his life, but in 1967, he moved to Indonesia with his mother to join Soetoro, who worked as a surveyor for the Indonesian government and then a consultant for Mobil. CONAN: Did the same results obtain if you said: What if they're raised by a single father? Today the number has dropped to 59 percent. 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